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Originally Posted by dECLAN  I know that nothing 'out there' really exists or should really affect my emotional state of mind. I am fully aware that I am responsible for all my emotions and how I react to certain situations and yet I find that I can easily be brought down by a simple snide comment directed my way or the occasional bout of moodiness which can last a week or two!
This post is not really about the short-comings of my partner but rather about me and how I handle situations. One moment I can feel fully elated and in the NOW and my partner can say something really negative and destroy my peace of mind.
Does this happen to anyone else?
How do you deal with it? |
Simple - you have a hole in your psychological/personal boundary.
You need to assert yourself and tell them to stop. Don't let negative comments slide. If it bothers you, tell the other person clearly and directly and be persistent about it. Eventually they will stop. Also utilize the law of attraction and intend them to leave while looking them in the eyes.
How you communicate with that person (including your energy and your body language) will determine how they respond.
Also you need to consciously spend less time with whoever is pissing you off.
For more about personal boundaries and mastering your interactions with other people, I recommend
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Change yourself and the other person's reactions to you will change accordingly.