You don't need to 'get' angry.
If anger arises in you, see it and let it be gone.
Fighting won't make you angry on its own. I do martial arts and I'm told all the time that I need to look angrier. So fighting doesn't 'make you' angry.
Getting hit might bring up anger but life has plenty of ways to bring up anger without you seeking it out.
As you saw with your phone call, you don't need to be angry in life to get things done (assertiveness on the hand can be necessary).
In the same token, you certainly don't need to be sad either.
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