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Jross22 · 08-02-2008, 06:33 PM

Well, I just wish that anger were a bit more repressed in me.

There are a couple of things you might want to think about. One is that some cultures do not distinguish between anger and sadness. They are basically the same feeling. The real difference as I understand it, is that Anger is the feeling that tells me that "I must do something about this,"

while sadness tells me "I really can't do anything about this."

If that's true, then you would naturally shift toward anger, a healthy anger most likely, if you keep asking, "What do I want to do about this? What can I do to make this better?"

The other thing is just to play act. Look at people who are angry. How do they hold their mouth, their lips, their shoulders and chin? What do they say? Can you act like you are angry, get your heart beating, get your muscles tense?

I find the feeling extremely unpleasant myself, I think that some of what they say about it being "higher" is bunk. Don't do it like I do: It's like an itch that you cannot scratch, because you're trapped, caged, tied up. The more you scream and the more you attack, the smaller the trap becomes until it's unbearable... the only end is when you become sad again, or just too wiped out to care. (That's APATHY. Below sadness, iirc.)

However, if you are sad, and wish to test anger: do you have access to any kind of safe room? Somewhere you could feel safe going into a rage, where there is nothing fragile. Maybe lock yourself up somewhere and put on boxing gloves and just find something cheap to throw around. ♥♥♥♥♥ and scream, take the most aggressive stances you can imagine, say the most offensive things you can imagine. And Believe them wholeheartedly.

I think this amounts to primal scream therapy. Primal scream therapy and the like is destructive, but it might be OK if you stop as soon as you get a taste, as soon as you get your heart pounding. Then, later, you might want to unleash it if you find yourself knowing you should do something-- but completely unable to go ahead.

I also recommend holding on to the power you have of repression. Set an alarm or have a coach ring a bell and see if you can stop yourself in an instant. It can be done and is a very important thing to do. Rage is a pitbull, so if you're going to unleash him you'd better be able to call him off.

You go Bruce Banner.

08-02-2008, 06:33 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jross22 Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 71	Confidential to Bruce Banner. Well, I just wish that anger were a bit more repressed in me. There are a couple of things you might want to think about. One is that some cultures do not distinguish between anger and sadness. They are basically the same feeling. The real difference as I understand it, is that Anger is the feeling that tells me that "I must do something about this," while sadness tells me "I really can't do anything about this." If that's true, then you would naturally shift toward anger, a healthy anger most likely, if you keep asking, "What do I want to do about this? What can I do to make this better?" The other thing is just to play act. Look at people who are angry. How do they hold their mouth, their lips, their shoulders and chin? What do they say? Can you act like you are angry, get your heart beating, get your muscles tense? I find the feeling extremely unpleasant myself, I think that some of what they say about it being "higher" is bunk. Don't do it like I do: It's like an itch that you cannot scratch, because you're trapped, caged, tied up. The more you scream and the more you attack, the smaller the trap becomes until it's unbearable... the only end is when you become sad again, or just too wiped out to care. (That's APATHY. Below sadness, iirc.) However, if you are sad, and wish to test anger: do you have access to any kind of safe room? Somewhere you could feel safe going into a rage, where there is nothing fragile. Maybe lock yourself up somewhere and put on boxing gloves and just find something cheap to throw around. ♥♥♥♥♥ and scream, take the most aggressive stances you can imagine, say the most offensive things you can imagine. And Believe them wholeheartedly. I think this amounts to primal scream therapy. Primal scream therapy and the like is destructive, but it might be OK if you stop as soon as you get a taste, as soon as you get your heart pounding. Then, later, you might want to unleash it if you find yourself knowing you should do something-- but completely unable to go ahead. I also recommend holding on to the power you have of repression. Set an alarm or have a coach ring a bell and see if you can stop yourself in an instant. It can be done and is a very important thing to do. Rage is a pitbull, so if you're going to unleash him you'd better be able to call him off. You go Bruce Banner.