your friend probably has not dealt with a suicide before either.
provide a listening ear. Accept whatever feelings she needs to vent. provide more of a listening ear.
That's all she needs right now, really. And cups of tea, and soup...
The whole helping her see that she had no influence over his actions usually comes later, after the first shock is past. Anything she is feeling right now is ok. You are bringing her the gift of your presence, which is a large one as many will flee such an emotionally disturbing situation.
Just being there for her is enough. Nothing more is required. Be yourself. Listen. Talk. Question. Be Silent. Nothing wrong with silence!
You are not required to present solutions here. You being there is enough.
Courage!
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