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Old 08-01-2008, 03:16 PM   #12 (permalink)
DayInTheLife
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You don't need to explain yourself to anybody.

Act like you want to act, be as respectful of the lifestyles of others as you would have them respect yours. Don't judge them and don't worry about their judgments.

If your family rejects you the way you are, it may be better if they are not in your life. We don't choose our families like we do our friends; there is no reason to keep people in your life simply because you share DNA, if they cannot accept who you are. I think too many people keep toxic relationships alive just because they are related to those people.

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I felt always some kind of different from most people. I have different values, I have different points of view and different dreams than most people I know.
Be careful here. We all have different ways of operating, but it is foolish to believe you are fundamentally different from everyone else. It's arrogance really, to think you are some rare exception to humanity just because your lifestyle is unconventional. This sense of "I am different from the rest of them" leads to resentment and irreconcilable separation between you and everyone you will meet. Human beings are all looking for the same things: fulfillment and relief from suffering. Only our methods differ.

Good luck with this, accept your family and their beliefs the way you wish to be accepted. Be compassionate and forgiving, and if they can't reciprocate, you may have to cut them loose. It takes courage and sacrifice to be yourself.
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