I haven't been able to find the poem, but a friend mentioned a line from Tess Gallagher, "Love as if you will be answered"
in her blog recently.
That hit me right in my heart! Just recently, being in a situation of wanting someone who's not available, I completely forgot about LOVE, true love, where I really just want their wellbeing, no matter what
our relationship looks like. Can I open my heart and love this person, even if they're not able to be in the type of relationship *I* would like: naked and happy? Yep, I sure can.
I found - and this sounds so cliche, but it's true! - that when I found love and acceptance for myself, those times when others didn't accept me just didn't affect me as much. I could open my heart to them and let them be where they were.
You are perfect, just where you are!
There is nothing wrong with you.