Yes BenThere, you're right - and I've been aware of this from the start. It's always been my decision and I've always been aware that I'm fully responsible for the life I live.
I needed advice to either open my mind to newer perspectives, or help me remember / identify what it is that I really want to do.
Again, I'd like to point out - that my parents will only give me options - in the form of girls they like. The final choice of whether I go ahead and marry the girl is my own choice - and at this point, pressure or not - I'll still be checking with those girls to see whether I'm attracted to them, and they match my criteria of what I'm looking for of being intelligent, kind and fun (at least similar levels to mine)
I'm fully aware that I'm still the one marrying them, living with them and sharing my life with them - and most of which without my parents being around - so it's important to me that I marry someone who I'm excited about and look forward to marrying.
I think so far the conclusion from my thought process (as you'd have seen from my last few responses) have been that I'll not indulge in the one night stands, and instead wait for a truly compatible life partner. However with her, and only if she's also open to it - I would consider premarital sex, because not only is that comfortable with what I've uncovered or evolved my values to be - but also to discover a show-stopping potential sexual incompatibility problem.
Last edited by striving4peace; 08-01-2008 at 10:00 AM.