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rho · 08-01-2008, 04:23 AM

Well, things have been going better, way better than usual. The conversations between us have finally found their stride, and it's been smooth sailing for the past few days. I've found it difficult to focus on keeping things light and fun, without bringing the whole girlfriend thing into the picture. Still, I can feel my outlook changing. It's so much more natural to interact with good looking girls when I view them as ordinary people instead of potential girlfriends.

I found out today that the girl I had a hard time talking to is currently living with a boyfriend. In the hours after I found out, I felt a huge emotional release, and I've felt exhausted since. I interpreted this as a release of attachment to the outcome, which worried me since I thought I was done with attachments. I'd been interacting just fine, but apparently it was still there. Does anyone have any alternative interpretations of the emotional release, or tips on removing attachments?

08-01-2008, 04:23 AM	#19 (permalink)
rho Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 19	Well, things have been going better, way better than usual. The conversations between us have finally found their stride, and it's been smooth sailing for the past few days. I've found it difficult to focus on keeping things light and fun, without bringing the whole girlfriend thing into the picture. Still, I can feel my outlook changing. It's so much more natural to interact with good looking girls when I view them as ordinary people instead of potential girlfriends. I found out today that the girl I had a hard time talking to is currently living with a boyfriend. In the hours after I found out, I felt a huge emotional release, and I've felt exhausted since. I interpreted this as a release of attachment to the outcome, which worried me since I thought I was done with attachments. I'd been interacting just fine, but apparently it was still there. Does anyone have any alternative interpretations of the emotional release, or tips on removing attachments? Last edited by rho; 08-01-2008 at 06:46 AM.