I'm into your link, and I like to comment all the way, to take it all out.
First I've went on how to know if someone is your soulmate?
Yes, there's a woman I met recently that, since the first moment, I felt more "me" than with anyone, I noticed something special. Lately she told about she reads about Law of Attraction and things like that, and we joke that we may had attracted each other. Quite possible.
We had some freaking similarities, so we can understand other and no-one else, I think.
I bet she was the example of a soulmate for me, and viceversa, but she was already in a relationship! and that stopped it all, but it was great anyway to be friends.
"I quickly learned that she had a boyfriend from high school, though she wasn’t sure where that relationship stood. Her friends at college were trying to set her up with another guy" that has been/is exactly my situation
"I didn’t exactly “find” her. We just bumped into each other. And she was the one who opened the door."
I didn't either, we just worked in front of other "casually".
It seems we think alike a lot reading the end of your post about settling.
Perhaps that girl will suddenly call me to have a weekend together or so, too?
Or maybe not, but I think I'm not very away from it all. I'm not in flirting with anyone around...