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Richful · 12-12-2006, 11:55 AM

Has anyone noticed themselves emphasizing their better traits when meeting someone new? I've been making a new friend via email recently and caught myself trimming off my more negative traits. I consider honesty a virtue and was a bit ashamed to discover this going on.

What it did highlight for me was how sharing your own perspective on yourself with someone else can heighten your self-awareness. I found the sharing process caused me to re-examine my values and realise what they actually meant to me. It's like introducing a new person with different tastes, values and thoughts into my life caused me to re-orient my perspective.

I think the desire to like and be liked by said friend put my reactive/judemental mind on hold while learning about their life and sharing mine. Have any of you noticed this phenomena in action?

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Richful Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Brisbane Posts: 279	Heightened awareness when starting new relationships Has anyone noticed themselves emphasizing their better traits when meeting someone new? I've been making a new friend via email recently and caught myself trimming off my more negative traits. I consider honesty a virtue and was a bit ashamed to discover this going on. What it did highlight for me was how sharing your own perspective on yourself with someone else can heighten your self-awareness. I found the sharing process caused me to re-examine my values and realise what they actually meant to me. It's like introducing a new person with different tastes, values and thoughts into my life caused me to re-orient my perspective. I think the desire to like and be liked by said friend put my reactive/judemental mind on hold while learning about their life and sharing mine. Have any of you noticed this phenomena in action?