Mate that is a good answer and what I'm leaning towards as well.
Can I clarify one thing though, that last statement you made.
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Let's make a distinction though: There are emotional responses that are appropriate (grief from loss, for example), then there are inappropriate emotional responses (such as anxiety and worry). The inappropriate feelings tend to linger on, fueled by ones thoughts. The cause is unconscious.
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I've been having these lingering thoughts that make me angry. Some include snippets of past insults, some are a week old, some are over a year old! When you say the cause is unconscious, do you suggest that we switch thoughts for these?
They seem to all come at once. For example, when I'm stressed out at work, these bad thoughts seem to all come, including these insults. They distract me from my work and make me grumpy sometimes.
The method you mentioned, letting it feel the anger/sadness, seems to work for what you call "appropriate" feelings - such as loss and so on. But for these thoughts, would you handle them in a different way?
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