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Originally Posted by Playlife  What does that "together" mean? So in the first four months of the relationship, people are free to sleep around? Maybe it's some American thing that doesn't make sense to me.  |
I don't know about it being American, but in my view, it takes some dating time before it's a good idea to make a commitment to be sexually exclusive. The OP said he "tried to cheat" at the very beginning of dating this woman, and I wouldn't even consider it cheating* at that point, because there would be no agreement to be exclusive. And it sounds like he didn't even have sex! Maybe these two DID have such an agreement, but my view is that it's foolhardy to make an agreement like that at the beginning of dating each other.
And I would not assume that the guy I'm dating is sleeping only with me unless he explicitly said so.
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I didn't quite understand the first sentence about cheating. Are you saying that it's ok to cheat in the beginning of a relationship?
I'm not sure what to think about having lots of sex when I'm single. It doesn't sound like a very meaningful venture...to me.
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Maybe not, and that's a perfectly valid choice. And if you assume that everyone you date feels that way and conforms to that expectation, you can look forward to some pain.
And of course, if you break up, all bets are off. You can't break up with someone and reasonably expect to have any say in his sex life.
*I don't ever call it "cheating" anyway, but I understand that many people still think that way. I call it "having sex with someone else."
By the way, I fixed your quote, I hope that's okay.