Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees
I don't think I can find an answer that will leave every one not feeling some kind of hurt. It seems that the thing to do would be to take the burden on my own shoulders so that my children don't get dragged into some kind of battle.
Hi, Honey! It doesn't HAVE to be a battle! If you, from a centered place of knowing it would help your kids, filed child support papers on him, and let the results of that action go: no battle! There can't be a battle with only one combatant, in other words. If he goes underground, so be it. (most of the time, the men I've known who threaten that are all talk)
Everyone may very well feel some kind of hurt. This is life, real life. People get hurt. If you're alive, you will be hurt. Your actions WILL hurt others, even when those actions in total alignment. Can you sit, and ask yourself, what is best for your kids? They need to be the focus, here. What is best for them?
In terms of letting the kids go that extra day, and miss camp... Can you see this as a gift, that he wants to see the kids? He wants a relationship with them. Even if you think he's doing it to manipulate you, etc. He *wants* to see them!
I have more to say, but must work.
I love you! You are, and will be, just fine!