Thank you Tigerlilly, hugs to you, that's a really warm response
I guess stigma was not the most accurate term. The thing is this friend has known be even before I started working in my insecurities, and so she thought I would also be less burdened by the virginity while suggesting it.
But I'm so, so glad to say that it now feels great to lose that self inflicting pain and I finally see myself as normal and lovable (something I've always had problems with. I didn't think I was even worthy of sex, or love till I was 23 - and even then with someone who could look past the body image I thought everyone else saw as well. It's only now that it's sunk in how everyone else sees / saw me and how I did, and I'm overcoming that body image issue)
But yes, I've stopped focussing on the manifestation. I will pick up where I left of on just that. Thank you