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lasti · 07-30-2008, 03:22 AM

I felt always some kind of different from most people. I have different values, I have different points of view and different dreams than most people I know.

However, it was never a big issue. I would just keep my life secret and let everything look like I'm normal.

Now...two months ago I droped out from school. Since then I have to face this issue every day. People don't understand that I have big dreams and hopes (if they knew about them, they would maybe think I'm megalomaniac

), as they don't have big dreams themselves anymore. They go for the money, while I go for the things I love. Being homeless wouldn't mean to me that I'm unhappy, while they couldn't imagine something worse. I'm positve, they're pessimistic. I'm spiritual, they think that beliefs are useless. And so on. That's just a few things but I think you can understand them because it's what Steve talks about a lot.

Some of them I propably won't see often anymore, but there are some I can't cut out of my life like my family.

I don't want to convince them of anything but I would really like to let them know who I am. As they don't know who I am right now they expect a lot of things from me: I should get a job, I shouldn't hope that my business will go on well or that I could ever be succesful in music. I should not live on my own for the rest of my life, I shouldn't be focused on my passions, I should be more open to realtionships, I should be more interested in money and so on...

It's always difficult to explain myself then. How would you tell a materialistic, avaricious person that you don't think homelessness means unhappiness?

And when I say something I truly mean and which differs very much from their world view it's like they think it's just a stupid idea or dream of me which will disappear anyway. I don't feel like anybody takes me serious there.

So should I simply tell them my points of view, no matter what? Should I let them know that I'm not the way they want me to be? Or should I keep my disguise? And if I let them know I'm different, how to do that? Just say always my point of view and my opinion? Or go to them and tell them directly I'm different and they should stop to expect anything from me? Are there actions I can take?

Thanks!

07-30-2008, 03:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
lasti Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 619	How to let somebody know that you're different? I felt always some kind of different from most people. I have different values, I have different points of view and different dreams than most people I know. However, it was never a big issue. I would just keep my life secret and let everything look like I'm normal. Now...two months ago I droped out from school. Since then I have to face this issue every day. People don't understand that I have big dreams and hopes (if they knew about them, they would maybe think I'm megalomaniac ), as they don't have big dreams themselves anymore. They go for the money, while I go for the things I love. Being homeless wouldn't mean to me that I'm unhappy, while they couldn't imagine something worse. I'm positve, they're pessimistic. I'm spiritual, they think that beliefs are useless. And so on. That's just a few things but I think you can understand them because it's what Steve talks about a lot. Some of them I propably won't see often anymore, but there are some I can't cut out of my life like my family. I don't want to convince them of anything but I would really like to let them know who I am. As they don't know who I am right now they expect a lot of things from me: I should get a job, I shouldn't hope that my business will go on well or that I could ever be succesful in music. I should not live on my own for the rest of my life, I shouldn't be focused on my passions, I should be more open to realtionships, I should be more interested in money and so on... It's always difficult to explain myself then. How would you tell a materialistic, avaricious person that you don't think homelessness means unhappiness? And when I say something I truly mean and which differs very much from their world view it's like they think it's just a stupid idea or dream of me which will disappear anyway. I don't feel like anybody takes me serious there. So should I simply tell them my points of view, no matter what? Should I let them know that I'm not the way they want me to be? Or should I keep my disguise? And if I let them know I'm different, how to do that? Just say always my point of view and my opinion? Or go to them and tell them directly I'm different and they should stop to expect anything from me? Are there actions I can take? Thanks!