Originally Posted by Ceros
When I was younger I was a very shy and timid person. Back then I've been heavily bullied and abused by my classmates (in three different schools), and I do mean heavily.
I still can't let go of all the pain I felt back then.
An excellent explanation of this phenomenon and solution to the problem can be found in a book by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now
. I think it would be very interesting for you to read it
In my mind, destroying them would be the same as destroying the same qualities that I hate in the world.
That's an illusion. If you destroy them, someone else will appear in your life to represent these qualities. You'd spend your life killing people and would never be free of these qualities that you hate.
You cannot eliminate them from the world because they are inside of you. Clear them from inside of yourself.
Edit: which means, accept them as part of yourself first.