I say "LISTEN TO ANGELA!" Wish someone had been around to warn me before it was too late. If you to want to learn the psychological and behavioral signs of abusers then go to
Signs Of Abusive Personalities |Ocean Of Perspectives
The strongest skills of an abusive person is their ability to manipulate people they encounter. Including playing the role of "victim." This guy has you explaining yourself and your activities, actions, etc. to him after only one date. Not a good sign.
Just because you realize something or someone isn't good for you and you severe any contact with it or them, doesn't not change the fact that you are a nice, loving and caring person. It just means you are also a smart person who knows what and who you need to avoid.