Originally Posted by striving4peace
suggests I go on a spree of one night stands just to get better at sex, to lose the stigma, to build self esteem - and to mainly improve my quality of life by getting laid frequently.
Lose the stigma? What are we talking about here, leprosy?
From my pov I can only tell you this much. I'm like in my thirties. If I was into a guy and he told me he'd never had sex with anyone before, I'd think it the most romantic thing ever. I'd just totally love it, I really would.
But that's looking through the eyes of love.
All this talk about one night stands to get better at sex and losing stigmas isn't looking through the eyes of love. You are perfectly okay and totally lovable the way you are right now. I even feel like scoffing at the notion that you need to slim and work out to be able to find the love and intimacy you're looking for and deserve.
Most likely in terms of LoA this seeing yourself handicapped in some way is the inner block which keeps the very intimacy you yearn for out of your reach this very moment.
There's a girl out there (maybe even right in front of your nose) right now who wants to be with you and loves you just the way you are, to whom all you are is just right, and whom you love just as much. Focus your imagination and energy on being happily together with that girl. And if it fuels your enthusiasm, having the hottest sex imaginable with her.