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Originally Posted by Rabbit  However, right around the time we started dating I attempted to cheat and at the end she finds out that I did (and had lied to cover it up). |
What you did in the first place doesn't sound like a mortal sin to me, like you said it happened very early on when the two of you were dating. Were you even already sleeping with Jane then? You said you didn't click in the beginning, so that gives me the idea that this might not have been the case.
Now, that's me talking from the pov of someone not madly in love with you.
If I imagine a Jane being madly in love with you and finding out you made cat paws at your ex even in the first stages of dating, I'd understand her being less than happy about it. It's just not the same as getting sweets and love letters.
I don't really see lots of sex as the ultimate remedy for heartache, and especially not if you're still aching to be with someone specific. And I don't see anything wrong with second chances either, especially when you suffer from a lack of closure on some level.Take it, give it, instead of mourning not having closure until the day you die. If something is really over you'll feel it, you'll feel relief wash over you in moving on.
Now as to Jane in particular, if I were in your shoes still I wouldn't give it another try. Let's face it, do you think Jane would be the type of girl who'd see it as a proof of your true love if she found out that after the break-up you slept with your ex and a few other girls? Don't think so. And if that's the case who you are right now and the guy she wants to be with are not the same thing.
Don't get me wrong, who you are is totally okay, just like Jane is totally okay being who she is. But if you want to be with someone you should do a reality check on the compatibility scale and from what I can gather about Jane and you from my pov, right now it doesn't look like a fit that was cut out for happiness.