Wait a sec... you went out with Jane for four months total? And at the very beginning of that four months you made overtures to another woman? At what point did you and Jane have The Talk? (you know, agreeing to sexual exclusivity).
I find it amazing that you would even have The Talk inside of four months together! Even intensely in love, even having known her for a long time, that's an extraordinarily short period of time in which to make a commitment, I think.
So it's kind of hard to see how "trying" to cheat early on in dating, even in an intense baby relationship, is anything to feel guilty about. Give yourself a break! And having actual sex after you and Jane broke up --- ! You are a rabbit! You're supposed to have lots of sex when you're single!
Forgive yourself, bunny, you are not evil. Get yourself to a position of forgiveness for yourself before you make any moves on Jane again -- or any other woman. She probably will never forgive you if you haven't forgiven yourself. This guilt is not going to serve you well in any relationship.
And welcome to the forums, by the way. I hope you have a wonderful time here.
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