Allow me to suggest you something that I found amazing when trying to improve my inner self-image and let go of negative thoughts.
Straighten your back. And smile. All the time. And I mean it physically. Going to the shop. Doing laundry. Cleaning floors. Driving. Talking. Working. Even if it feels forced onto you like a mask at first, you will be amazed how it changes your perception and mood. Because when you do that, there arises disharmony in your brain between your mental state and your physical state, and since you are keeping your physical state with the power of your will, your mind will be forced to change accordingly and start giving you thoughts of joy. With time you will find this natural and perfectly according to your inner state.
While at first it seems weird (did to me), it actually falls in line of the concept that you have to give to receive. You are giving your readyness to receive joy to the universe by your body posture. And universe gives you joy.
And another one: love your body as you love your newborn child. It is just as helpless, because you are its unlimited master. Take your time, close your eyes, look into yourself and give it love. Unconditional, beautiful love - for all your organs, your skin, your legs, your feet, arms, hands, waist, eyes, hair etc. Remember that you chose it yourself as the most fitting, best and beautiful one for your current incarnation. Ask its forgiveness, because you make it work hard and perhaps do not take enough care for its true needs. If some part of it is ill or feels discomfortable, apologise to it for stressing it beyond its limits and send it lots and lots of love.
Never punish your body (even in your mind) because it gives away what your feelings are. It is not the bodys fault that you have them. It does an amazing job by pulling your attention to realise them. If you manage to suppress your body language to hide your feelings, they will just go deeper inside and cause all sorts of illnesses. Not pretty. What you can do instead is, whenever you feel distressed, stop, breathe, forgive and cast love to the person who causes the distress to you, apologise the negativity for attaching it to yourself, forgive yourself that you caused the negativity to flow to you and apologise to your body for unconsciously harming it by attracting the negative energy. If you feel that an unpleasant conversation is coming your way, you can do this before it actually happens and then visualise the way you want it to go. And it will go exactly the way you want it.
The last one is easier said than done, I am practicing it (and I mean, making pages and pages of lists of stuff that I am forgiving, writing letters, and talking to my mind a lot) and still find it complicated sometimes, because the ego is so resisting to it. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes, particularly when I am not certain in my mind about what outcome I want, I get equally fuzzy results. But I am sure that mastering it is the key for overcoming all of the ego caused suffering.
Too often we forget that we are beings of light and that all the wisdom of the world is available to us, right where we are.
Last edited by mncz; 07-28-2008 at 04:21 PM.