I warned you it was a biggie! But it also looks like there are a couple of beliefs that could bear some examination for truth:
"If my ex doesn't send money, I and my children suffer in poverty."
"He is not interested in meeting his financial obligations to his children."
Really? Is that true? Can you know for certain that it is the truth?
I love this: "The Cat Who Walks by Herself." Perhaps that will be the title of your international Best-Selling book.