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Originally Posted by Angela  and the Biggie: If you were being Generosity, what would be possible in your relationship with your ex? |
If I were being Generosity, I would accept that he is not interested in meeting his financial obligations to his children, that he is not capable of caring for them in that way.
Here comes the but . . . but if I accept that, then my children and I suffer from living in poverty?
How can I, as a Mom who so loves my children, feel good about that???
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Originally Posted by Angela
Well, you just described a situation that sounds like you'd feel better about if you cleaned it up.
And do that with whomever else you need to clean up, too. Train the people into your life to hold you accountable for what you are committed to being, and to help you let go of what doesn't work -- cuz it doesn't work for anybody, not just you.  |
Now I understand what you mean by cleaning up. You mean not just forgiving old wounds, but actually asking forgiveness and verbally committing to the people in my life. I get it.
Interestingly, I have asked my boyfriend to call me out on my behavior whenever I turn into "the cat who walks by herself". I never used to understand how that action of mine hurt people, I only thought I was punishing myself!