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Old 07-28-2008, 12:35 AM   #9 (permalink)
jaamkie
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ugh I have the worst time with this question! As an American woman, culturally the guy is likely to at least offer to pay for me; but, as I'm a working adult fully equally capable of paying, I see no reason that he should pay- particularly when the outing is my idea. I always offer to pay at least for myself, often for both of us if he's paid for me in the past, but after a few back-and-forths I usually give up and let him pay if he won't accept my money. In theory I'd much prefer it to be comfortable back-and-forth more-or-less equal over time instead of splitting individual bills, but sometimes men seem even more resistant to me sometimes paying the full bill than they are to splitting it, so then I try to at least pay something, but I really hate the whole hassle and awkwardness.
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