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Originally Posted by Tigerlilly  And then this logical question: If you feel bad about being invited by her, what exactly makes you think it'll make her happy to be invited by you? |
In today's day and age it's becoming more and more common for women to show their independence by paying on dates. It was her idea to stop and get a coffee so maybe that's why she insisted on paying and it's true that maybe she just wanted to do something nice for me which I totally respect. On first dates I think the traditional way of the man paying is proper and since I don't go places with this girl very often it almost felt like a first date so I kinda felt obligated to treat her.
When she paid and showed her independence maybe it took away my feeling of independence and to some extent my masculinity. Like, if she keeps doing stuff like this it'll make me feel like I'm her little brother or something.
This situation with the girl was what got me thinking about the topic in the first place but I wanted to know just in general, for guys or girls, should I keep insisting more than twice if they keep turning down my offer to pay? What is the norm here? I sometimes see other people in line going back and forth like this for a ridiculously prolonged amount of time and it just seems so stupid that people have to argue about this.