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DayOne · 07-26-2008, 12:06 AM

oh yeah this is an interesting one...

I've been in a relationship with a girl for two years now. She's the first girl I've ever dated and I love her.

But before I met her I'd always thought of myself as bisexual, maybe even gay.

I know I'm not gay now, as I am attracted to her and other girls. But I am still attracted to a lot of guys too.

I want to be with her, and I would quite happily agree to stay with her forever. But I also feel that there is another side of myself that I'm repressing and have never explored.

Which is why I'm struggling now.My girlfriend is away for 6 months, and I met a guy, the only person who I've spoken to about this. And he's gay. I know that if I wanted to I could experiment with him and I'm tempted.

I don't want to cheat on her. I really don't. The problem is that I both want to stay with her for as long as she'll have me...but also I need to know who I am. And I don't feel I can understand the side of me that is attracted to guys without doing something dishonest.

I don't know. I'm very confused. Thoughts?

07-26-2008, 12:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
DayOne Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 21	Bisexual cheating oh yeah this is an interesting one... I've been in a relationship with a girl for two years now. She's the first girl I've ever dated and I love her. But before I met her I'd always thought of myself as bisexual, maybe even gay. I know I'm not gay now, as I am attracted to her and other girls. But I am still attracted to a lot of guys too. I want to be with her, and I would quite happily agree to stay with her forever. But I also feel that there is another side of myself that I'm repressing and have never explored. Which is why I'm struggling now.My girlfriend is away for 6 months, and I met a guy, the only person who I've spoken to about this. And he's gay. I know that if I wanted to I could experiment with him and I'm tempted. I don't want to cheat on her. I really don't. The problem is that I both want to stay with her for as long as she'll have me...but also I need to know who I am. And I don't feel I can understand the side of me that is attracted to guys without doing something dishonest. I don't know. I'm very confused. Thoughts?