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Yes, it does help. However, I think you're right about needing to be in a relationship before reaching that realization. I've heard all those things you just said, but there's a difference between hearing it and actually knowing it. I'll try to focus on what you said, I guess. Maybe if I concentrate on it for long enough, it'll sink in.

I actually had a similar experience earlier this year. I met a cute, smart, funny girl at school and over time became attracted to her. Enter pedestal. However, it disintegrated once I realized that we had some serious incompatibilities. While I don't think we would have killed each other, it certainly wouldn't have been all puppy dogs and rainbows.