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Originally Posted by rho  Dannyboy1: I have been practicing with many, many people, and I am steadily improving. Even since this winter, I've noticed huge improvements. It's encouraging, but it'd be a lot nicer to have surpassed these difficulties altogether. Do you have any tips on how to go about not putting this girl on a pedestal? I've been doing it for so long (not just with her) that it's like second nature now. I do it without thinking. |
It's probably going to take you going through a relationship with someone else before you can understand she's not everything you think she is. You have to realize relationships are not all cotton candy and wet dreams. She's going to get pissed at you, you're going to get pissed at her (unless you put her on a pedestal in which case she'll walk all over you because she doesn't respect you when you can't see her faults), she's going to so stupid things and react unreasonably, you're going to act like an idiot... That's what you need to realize. She's got plenty of faults and so do you. Remember growing up with your family? Was it all rainbows and kittens?
I put this girl on a pedestal for years. Once I was in another relationship that was good, I looked back and thanked God I never got into a relationship with her. We would have killed each other. Does any of this help?