Finance in general:
Total Money Makeover and/or
Financial Peace Revisited plus planner
Self-worth in general: My experience (rags to... not quite riches, but well on my way) is that self-worth is an individually personal topic. For me, my self-worth is defined by how much my friends respect me, and want to hang out with me. For my wife, her self-worth is defined by her ability to define her day.
Consequence of my and my wife's sense of self-worth? We either have friends at the house about 2-3 nights a week, or go to their homes 2-3 nights a week. My wife does not work. She has some "chores" and such that she has to get done during a given week, but she can go to bed when she feels like it, wake up whenever she desires, etc.
The exercise that I did to determine my self worth seemed stupid, but it worked for my wife and I. Three questions:
1) If you had no money, and no obligations, what would you do?
2) If you had all the money, and no obligations, what would you do?
3) Given that you have some money, and some obligations, how do 1 and 2 fit the picture?
Somewhere within those three questions lies your sense of self.