Tell your boyfriend about your feelings, and ask him to remind you every time he thinks that you are acting out of desperate need. And then don't freak out when he does
. This may be difficult for you to accept, but it's possible that many behaviors that you consider to be appropriate and rational are actually illogical and harmful. I know how pervasive issues like this can be, how they can twist what's right until you don't even know what's wrong. So keep this in mind if your BF tells you that you are being unreasonable. Don't accept what he says without question, but don't dismiss it out of hand either.