Thank you both for your reply. I guess the moment you even think about how to act in such a situation you already have subconsciously read the incident as an "offense", haven't you. So the Tolle-way would work best if you had the mindset
before the situation arose (?).
Angela, as to the specific situation: the last example was just the usual petty stuff at work that got me again off guard: a colleague who treated me with arrogance... (or so I chose to feel about the situation...)
During my lunch-break I thought about this and came up with something that could help me with these situations:
People
own the energies or emotions they have and direct at other people as much as I own my emotions and energies. And other people expressing these emotions and energies do not take anything away from who I am or from my ability to be who I want to be. Thus, there
really is no offense and nothing to teach to each other. If I accept this, then I am able to "live and let live" (you can own your emotions, and I can own mine). So in the example above, the colleague
owned his arrogance (and maybe the lack of self-esteem that caused it) and I
owned my sensitivity to it (and thus my lack of self-esteem and consciousness at that moment).
And the second belief I started is to
dance with emotions and energies that surround me (that is in my head).
Dancing gives it a much more fun and playful attitude as opposed to fighting or competing against the emotions/energies that surround you.
Hope this still makes sense anywhere outside of my mind
