The Cloud, I'd like to suggest to you another perspective. It wasn't feeling or showing your feelings that had you be picked on, it was being reactive rather than responsive that had the kids pick on you (which was their reaction to your way of being -- scientific and smart -- which triggered their old pain which might have had something to do with: "I'm stupid" or "I'm not good enough."
Your reactiveness, in turn, activated their own reactiveness -- their own pain decisions -- and it created a cycle of reactivity that kids are just not taught how to break, normally. Wouldn't it be great if they were?
But you've collapsed it all together -- you've made it mean (in your little child consciousness, not as an enlightened adult) that feeling = pain. I think it's a lot more accurate to see that it's reactiveness = pain, and that it's a perpetual motion machine.
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