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Originally Posted by Swannie  I'm frustrated because I want it to work out, even though I accept (95%) that that won't happen. |
Swannie, you can be 100% sure that it will work out, one way or another. Where your frustration comes in is that you want it to work out in a certain way -- you have an image of how it will have to be before you will be satisfied and fulfilled. So you are unable (or unwilling) to be satisfied and fulfilled in your current moment with this woman, and that's too bad because your current moments with her sound really beautiful and lovely!
You didn't specifically state your aim for this, but I'm guessing you want to be in a loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) with her. If that's what you want, the LoA people will tell you to let go of your "I accept 95% that it won't happen" because what you are focusing on is "it won't happen."
If I were you, I would focus on what really works for you -- enjoying and being grateful for having this woman in your life right now. And if you'd like to edge it into romantic territory, be the kind of partner now that you'd want to be in an LLTMBR -- a leader, a teacher, a protector, and provider, maybe? (and allow her to be what she wants to be, too, which might very well turn out to be the same thing).
Oh, yeah, and you might also want to practice letting go of your focus on how great things were with your ex, by the way. You can be grateful for that without using it as a model for your current and future relationships -- ai chihuahua! That's a great way to get rid of a woman!