It's both. It is situational, really. Sometimes it's both at the same time. You can teach other people to how to treat you not by 'standing up for yourself' but in treating others the way they should have treated you, as in meeting disrespect with respect or anger with kindness.
You take no offense at what they did but at the same time teach them how you want to be treated by example. It's a beautiful thing when you see that light bulb moment in someone else without directly hurting them. |