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Originally Posted by Elixir  I honestly don't understand what's so wrong with me that people don't want to make friends with me =\. I feel like I'm a pretty interesting person. I think I'm decent looking [should looks even matter in friendships...], I think I'm pretty mature for my age, and I really care about people. I go out of my way to do nice things for my friends, I always listen to their problems and give advice, sometimes I'll surprise people with nice things they didn't expect, and if they have a problem, I'll go out of my way to research on it for them and I spend a lot of time thinking about other people. However,my kindness is never reciprocated or even appreciated. I'm a nice person by default and I don't want to become a ♥♥♥♥♥ just because other people aren't nice, but how my friends don't even care about me makes me want to be a ♥♥♥♥♥. =\
I'm a teenager in high school btw...is it just this teenager 'phase' or will things get better as I get older? =\ I feel like things will never change. |
First of all, you're blaming yourself. You could always turn it around into a self-esteem-boosting phrase and ask "What's so right with me?"
Secondly, sounds like you're letting everyone walk all over you. I was a teenager once and I know that around that age many are very critical and "gimme gimme" that I wouldn't be surprised if people were taking your kind words, generous gifts and sucking it all up with little appreciation for you. Time will pass and you'll notice a bit more maturity. (note, I say "a bit")
The thing is, you've created a pattern. Now many of those people are going to expect you to keep supplying things to them, even if they won't ever say a genuine "thank you" at the very least.
I'll use a metaphor here and say it's sort of like feeding a bunch of hungry wolves. They'll happily snatch up the meat you offer and may even growl at you; turning their faces away with "THEIR" food thinking that you may steal it from them. However, the moment you have no more food they'll start hunting you down.
And in this thread I see you're basically asking why the wolves are acting like that even though you were so generous?
You cannot control the wolves. You can only control yourself. Ask whether if they are really the beings you want to be around with, or maybe instead of feeding wolves you can treat a cuddly terrier that would be more than happy to thank you for your attention. =)