Quote:
Originally Posted by ZHereford  I have found it more efficient to adopt 'new productive beliefs' rather than try to dig up old self-defeating beliefs and ponder why I subscribe to them. |
Angela's method is not about digging up old self-defeating beliefs and pondering why we subscribe to them. Identifying the belief and remembering when we made this decision for the first time is just a tiny first step, and it's not so much about asking why we decided it, but more about feeling it again like the first time we felt it.
The biggest part of the process however is to examine how this belief impacts our life now, and then how our life would be without it. Based on this, a new, empowering belief is formed.
The point in going through all this emotional process is that the new belief is not arbitrarily chosen from an intellectual viewpoint, it's more the natural result of an emotional breakthrough. And this makes it much, much more powerful.
For instance, when I worked on "I'm trapped" I was very impressed to realize what an impact this belief had on other people in my life. That, plus feeling "I'm trapped" deep down in my blood, produced an tremendous effect on me - yes, not exactly pleasant, but damn powerful! Then when Angela asked me what would be possible in my life without the belief that "I'm trapped", and when we looked at what I said, I realized that it all boiled down to "harmony".
Had I chosen a new belief without doing all this work around "I'm trapped", I'd have decided something like "I'm free", because it sounds logical, when you feel trapped, to adopt the new belief that you're free. But "I'm harmony" was soooo much more spot-on for me. And it meant so much more to me than "I'm free" because I had gone through the emotional process.
This method is much more powerful than a psychological analysis of my beliefs and why I have them. You cannot compare those two approaches.
Seeker, I'm happy for you. It's normal now to be confronted to "I'm deficient" everywhere. I was feeling trapped all the time too, even by Angela's questions.
You're brave! You're great and bold, just hang in there, I believe in you.
