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Originally Posted by wolfgang  What's the difference between "to shore up my courage" and "she would *give* me courage"?. |
One is me internally generating it, using a tool or resource, and the other is seeking or expecting to extract it from an external source.
As a parallel, I go to a party with the intention of generating connection and fun; I don't go there to *get* connection and fun. Or, I am in my relationship with Danger Man with the commitment to generating growth, love, sexiness, freedom, and some other stuff, not to get those things
from him. Both of these -- the party or the relationship -- are tools, not sources. I can still generate the ways of being in other ways, if the party or the relationship were not available.
Same with being conned, I suppose. If what someone needs to learn is something related to being conned or taken advantage of (like: trust, strength, focus, etc.), then if a con-artist-psychic is not available, then they'll find another tool (
) for their purpose. And for people whose lesson involves outrage or protest, then they won't be limited to outrage and protest about the c.a.p.'s -- there's always something around to be outraged about and to protest against.