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Originally Posted by Sanity Panda  I feel so dependent on this person. But I have no idea what I should do, and whether I should get over this dependancy issue. |
The advice people have given isn't very practical in my opinion. Identifying is just the first step. Learning to ignore the feelings is not healthy though.
Dependency seems to happen when someone has something we don't. We can then build beliefs on top of what it would be like to have that thing, which increases the feeling of dependence.
What is it that this person fills in, in you? Are they extremely sociable, and you are not? Then you must cultivate that side of yourself. Or maybe you see her always happy, and you don't feel that happiness. Then you must find happiness in other areas.
This is developing your independence. It is a long road. But thankfully it is not about how far you can get, but the fact that you are moving in the right direction that makes the difference.