Hey 25
I was once cheated on, as was my best friend. Sometime afterwards we analysed what characteristics the 2 girls had in common and we found
1. A lack of honesty and integrity
2. A bad relationship with their father.
They were also bad communicators and when they percieved the relationship to be not working, their response was not to talk about it but to cheat.
It's important in any situation to act but not react. The reaction in this case, to being cheated upon, would be to say "I'm never trusting anybody again!". But after thinking about it for ages (as you do after a breakup) I have resolved the lesson I should learn is: pay attention to the subtle signs of dishonesty that looking back I saw but ignored. Honesty is critical in a long term relationship, I've learned this the hard way
So when you wrote this post about this girl, I was struck by how you mentioned virtually everything I had concluded was wrong with my previous girlfriend and that led to her cheating and me dumping her for it. Lying via omission is just how she used to do it, people who are dishonest with themselves usually do this (ie. they are dishonest with themselves that they are being dishonest)
This is just my view of course, a bad relationship with the father isn't so damning necessarily, but when combined with a lack of honesty and being a bad communicator....how do you think she'll deal with a bigger issue that will inevitably arise later in the relationship?
I think this girl is definitely not ready for a serious relationship and when I read your post alarm bells rang in my head. Perhaps she's more the party girl type, but I think you'd be making a big mistake to invest seriously in a relationship with her.
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