Here's another thing I thought of-
I have a tendency to say f*** it in a relationship when things get bad or when I get frustrated. Even though I've done this too much I thought I was always justified. However, I'm learning to work through things. I'm learning to get past little things in order to make the relationship work. It's hard for me to let go of things that I'm soooooooooooo (enough o's??)
convinced of but I'm motivated to do it. I'm motivated by something better- a lasting relationship.
Again, I have a tendency to want to run away when things get tough but I'm beginning to fight it and I'm glad I am. It's also a struggle for me to truly open up to somebody and make myself vulnerable. However, I'm learning that taking the risk is worth it. My mind seems to always want to counter this closeness by thinking of reasons to not let myself get close to her, though. But again, it's a constant struggle and some times I've just had enough closeness and need to get away so I'm learning to be patient w/ myself when I recognize it rather than beating myself by thinking I'm a failure for not maintaining that state... well, permanently, I guess.
My advice - and I'm trying to institute this in myself currently as well - is to forget all that would cause you to run and love. Let yourself love and experience it as well because you deserve to enjoy that feeling.
However, let me also say that you shouldn't be naive in your forgetting either. I guess it's a balancing act that's up to you.
Hope this helps.