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Originally Posted by LifeWork  I can't stand the arrogance of someone who has basically given up in my eyes. |
LifeWork, you mentioned that you have past resentments about these people, but it seems clear that your resentments are present and active, and that you have made up your mind about these people, too -- that they have basically given up.
If you hold these beliefs and you accept the invitation and go, you will be actually creating no freedom for them and for you, and your energy will indeed be drained (except not by them -- by you!) and you'll find yourself in a trying situation. That's a joke. Did you read back on see the "trys" there were in your OP? When someone talks about "trying", they have basically given up. A "try" is just a band-aid on an open gaping wound.
Which is all not to say that you shouldn't go. But I think it would be much more fun for you and everybody else if you take 100% responsibility when you accept the invitation. By that I mean: look boldly and see how you own the very quality that bugs you in others -- that's why it bugs you. Look at the impact being that way has had on your life and on the lives of others. And take on a new way of being that would work better, a way of being that would inspire you if you were being it during the vacation. (Another way to find it is: what way of being would inspire you if someone else were being it? If you were watching a movie, what quality would the hero transform to so that he could triumph and reach resolution?)
But if you're not willing to take on 100% responsibility, and I'm not saying you *should*, I wouldn't go if I were you. That would make you the annoying Jeff Goldblum character who thinks everybody else should change before he's willing to be happy, and that's just not you. You are the Hero. Get ready for a breakthrough, Hero.