I may not have tips, but I do know that abandonment is an EXTREMELY sticky emotion to deal with. I lost my mom at ten and my dad was very barely there, so I have a real clear view of abandonment. The only thing that I know how to do with this is to strive to not be a person that abandons someone. Its really hard due to the nature of my parental role model that was my father. I also realize that he did the best he could with what he had... but he was truly incapable of doing any better. For a long time I was angry at my mom for abandoning me, until a really good friend of mine told me that she did not die on purpose and did not want to leave me AT ALL. Of course since the emotion occurred when I was ten I did not understand that and I held onto that anger for 31 years. I have recently come to terms with that and it feels much better. I still as recently as a few hours ago am dealing with the feeling of aloneness though and it is really hard to remove that feeling. I have no doubt though that I can absolutely be healed of this. Enjoy your time with your new love no matter how long it lasts.. have no regrets. Hope this sheds light for you G
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