In my personal opinion, I would most certainly distance yourself from this man and let him get his own personal life sorted out between 'God' and with his still present wife.
Until then (signed divorce papers in hand, or he and she work things out) you have no foundation on which to properly engage in, and be in any solid relationship with him.
He needs to be a 'free agent' if he's going to play the field, and by your continuing to exist privately within it, your only adding confusion, and not only hurting yourself, but him, his wife, his family, and everyone associated 'with the two of you'.
If it's meant to be after 'the dust settles', THEN is a more appropriate time to try to re-start a relationship. Who knows... Maybe by then your 'Christian' character will have moved on and you might find out where your heart truly lies, and what your real faith or motivation is.
You SHOULD privately seek consultation with your Pastor. It's part of 'his job' as being a Christian to be there for his parishoners, and he does work within the restraint of privacy in all matters. Trust your faith, and speak with him.
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