[moriez]

Going over and over this thread there are really a lot of valuable suggestions! Just to let you know and to give myself an overview Im going to implement a couple that seem to be for me.

For #1:

-"If I were feeling really good and connected with these people, how would that feel?"

This one gives me a great feeling and is a very positive and open attitude towards others. The mental brake that I was speaking about I theoretically no longer consider because Im going to play with watching/awareness instead. Also the desire for approval Im going to replace by changing focus on "If I were feeling really good and connected with these people, how would that feel?"

-"Speak before you think. Next time you have something to say that's deviant, say it anyway"

This one is harder but the hands-on factor is my kind of thing. For me this one is similar to an older one I have used: "dont choose on consequence when expressing yourself."

For #2 I dont have anything hands-on yet but I start to understand:

-that I get triggered by what happened in the past.
-that I have a problem only because I think I have a problem and will try to no longer regard it as a problem.
-that me comes in many forms and is not static but dynamic which translates that its ok to be whatever I am in whatever situation.
-the importance of now and that my problems were once created in my head.

The issue with me looking up to people still needs some more work. If anyone wants to comment go for it!