You might want to have another go at your original pal, the guy who didn't want to pick out your flaws.
There are a couple of reasons I think that is a good idea: one is that you instinctively trust him to give the kind of advice that will be helpful for you, and you are probably right; and the other is that the practice of getting his feedback despite his original refusal could be a huge triumph for you in accomplishing what you want in life.
He DID give you feedback! His feedback said: you asked the wrong question. However it was you worded your request, what he heard was "what are my flaws? what is wrong with me? what should I change?" and he refused to take part in that losing proposition (he sounds really smart to me -- you're right to want his advice!
) If you are smart enough to take his feedback, you can reword your request so that he hears your real question: "I trust you; would you please help me see something that is in my blind spot? If you were in my position, in which direction would you turn? What would you focus on to maximize being in love with your own life, if you were me? I'm not asking you to fix or change me; I would just like to try on a new perspective and I value your ability to point out new perspectives. What do you say?"
....or whatever it would take for him to hear your real request, which has nothing to do with any flaws.