Hi, Stellabeam, I don't think what you're saying is superficial at all, and I think a lot of people feel the same way. I certainly have! Do you get sort of, well, overwhelmed when you are being looked at and possibly judged? I used to call it The Red Problem, because I would blush wildly and lose the ability to think clearly -- just would get flustered. I can remember one time when I was a bridesmaid.... ai chihuahua.
What thoughts are going through your head when you think about this happening? What recurring message does your little voice in your head keep giving you? What judgements does that little voice insist are true and real?