Hi There - I identify with your thinking, so maybe what helps me will help you.....When I have a thought beginning with "I wish...", I remind myself that "wish" is not an action verb! I have a gentle dialogue with myself when these wishful/despairing thoughts take hold. For instance, I tell myself, kindly, that if I can't do anything about it, I imagine a light switch and visually switch off that train of thought. This interrupts the exhausting and getting-nowhere mindset. I get up, sometimes like a zombie and do a little something in the direction of what I'm seeking. Key words Do and Little. We humans are animals. We need to keep moving, physically. All else follows. Brisk walk. Household Chores. Personal grooming. Because if nothing else, the thoughts will be accompanied by productive activity. Another thought that is helpful....imagine what it's like to have you as a friend, employee, etc. and try to be your better self when the internal dialogue kicks in. When I am dissatisfied with myself, I find that I am more critical of others. That knowledge helps to halt the unproductive thinking. Keep your mind open and I hope you take comfort in knowing that we all struggle with the same stuff!
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