Hi, your post actually got me signed up just to respond.
I was in the same situation when I was younger. The reality was too horrible to face so I know how fantasies save you. Eventually, though, I couldn't do it. I think it happened because of waiting too long for things to change. I think there is only so much you can endure. Try to take one of your fantasies and get excited about it enough to take a small step in that direction (assuming your fantasy is constructive!) Be flexible about it and how you plan it. You don't need to make big changes all at the same time. Just do one small thing after the other. There's no harm in fantasizing but please do something small to move in the direction you want. This way, you're also valuing your time. My fantasy was to live by myself in a different place. I opened up a map and even chose a place, but never acted on it. I was too passive to work up any excitement.
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Originally Posted by lightthecandle  hey everyone,
and about breakthroughs (thanks angela)...i'm constantly told that change takes time. and i hate that! i want to finally change..and change my life in an instant..but how do i go about doing THAT?
again, thank you all tremendously for your kind/real words. hopefully this time..i will truly listen instead of just "reading". |