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Originally Posted by Tigerlilly  ... this is like history revisited with the shadow of another needy guy driving me up the tree |
Hi, Tigerlilly. This is not a shadow of another needy guy driving you up a tree; this
is a needy guy who is driving you up a tree. You attracted him, because you've got a lesson you didn't learn last time this happened and so it is going to keep coming back until you do, with harsher consequences each time.
This fellow is announcing to you, loud and clear, who he is and what he's up to. Because you are very interested in being in a loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR), you are warring against yourself with all this confused intuition -- on the one hand, your intuition is very clearly saying, "this guy is trouble" and on the other, you are consulting the cards to give him another chance.
To me, the man you've described sounds manipulative and creepy, not decent and sweet. I think you might go into defending him when you hear me say that: "oh, no, really, I've made him sound worse than he really is!" and I just want to point out that I hear that prologue to the Chicken Opera a lot from women, and it gets louder and more vibrant and off-key as the relationship proceeds. Pretty soon it turns into "But I LOOOOOoooove him!!!!!" or "Yes, he hit me, but he was very sorry!" That may sound melodramatic, but big relationships traps often get their start in this same way -- when a man or woman ignores what a potential suitor is telling them, loud and clear.
You deserve an LLTMBR, Tigerlilly.