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You compliment somebody who is just learning something new that you are already proficient at. You don't compliment somebody who is competent and mature and self-reliant.
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Learning new things is something wonderful. If someone has learned to do something better than he did in the past, why shouldn't he get a compliment for it.
If you say that someone has learned nothing new in the last weeks, isn't that derogatory?
Nobody is perfect, everybody is there to grow into a even better person.
Having honest feedback is very valuable. Whether it's negative or positive feedback.
You need to know a bit about the other person to give excellent positive feedback.
If you give a girl the compliment that she looks beautiful today because she lost a few pounds till you saw her a few weeks ago, that very valuable to the girl.
She struggled to get her weight down to increase her beauty.
That could give her the energy to keep with her new diet, because she has a postive experience when you compliment her that balances the negative experience of making the effort to get more thin.
Unfortunatly you need a prior relationship to notice changes in someone, so it's something that you can seldom do well online.